In a relationship, even in marriage, learn how to give your partner space once in a while. They need it to process things, plan, and think. This is why we always emphasize self-love first before loving someone else. When you love yourself and enjoy your own company, as well as have developed the ability to be alone and happy while single, you will not make this mistake when in a relationship or married.
Don’t choke your partner with your attention and affection. You are not a prison warder. Are you everywhere they go? Give them space to breathe, to hang out with the guys, with the girls, with family and friends. Don’t be everywhere they go or look; they will feel choked and begin to resent your presence.
Demand reduces when supply increases. Encourage them to get involved in individualistic activities and events that give them satisfaction and make them productive, while you get involved in yours too. Let them go out, have fun, and then miss you.
Yes, there is a need for a couple to be together and build a life together, but we must not rob our partner of their individuality and space completely. Don’t be a chewing gum partner, calling and texting them 24/7, wanting their attention like it is oxygen. You will reduce the productivity and efficiency of your partner in their ministry, career, and affect their relationship with their friends and family drastically.
Make the relationship not go choke.
Papa Anaisie Yarquah
Edited and published by: Clement Afreh CBCInc Hypes @clementafreh